Worth in Him

I’m Not Perfect, but My Savior Is

I’ve really been struggling lately… struggling to be perfect. To have perfect grades, hair, skin, clothes, yet as hard as I may try, I still am not happy. My lowest grade is a 97%, but I still don’t feel like I’m good enough. I just got a haircut that I really like, but I still don’t feel pretty enough. 

I’ve really been struggling lately with feeling like I’m not good enough or whether I will be good enough in the future. I’ve been overwhelmed with my own made up standards that I expect to fulfill. I break down in tears and wonder why I’m so unhappy, when other people around me tell me that I’m ‘perfect’. Isn’t that what I’ve always been striving for? Perfection? 

Oh, will I ever learn? When will I stop expecting so much from my seventeen year old self? When will I just allow myself to find my self-worth in God? 

“You see, if I am completely honest with myself, I idolize perfection. Instead of relying on God, I struggle to be ‘good enough’. While God has already defined me as His precious child, I blindly scramble around, trying to control my own life and reach the heights of perfectionism. That said, time and time again, I only reach the depths of depression and stress.”

When I read these words a little while back, they really sunk deep into my heart and soul. I hope that they’ll inspire you too. We’re not perfect, we’re human. No one can achieve perfection, no matter how hard we try, how perfect our grades are, or how beautiful our appearance is. We were born sinful, and we cannot escape it. We are perfectly imperfect, but in Him we can find peace, we can find our self-worth. 

The following post is not mine (it’s Faye Lentine’s over at the Rebultion), but her words have really impacted my heart and I hope that they’ll do the same for you. 

Prayers for Brussels


“I am a perfectionist. I like presenting my life as a nice, clean, pretty package for all the world to ooh and ah over. I like my Facebook profile to coordinate. If I don’t get one hundred percent on a test I feel as if I’ve failed- even if I get 95%. If I stutter over my words in public, I am left feeling ridiculous for the rest of the day. I hate it when my struggles are exposed. When my life looks a little messy.

Perhaps you are nodding your head in complete agreement. Maybe- just maybe- you can relate.

The thing about perfectionism, however, is that you are setting up your own standards. For me, perfection is generally defined as those wonderful moments when I feel happy- also known as those moments when everything is going my way. When I feel accomplished. When I feel successful. Then, when life is not going my way and I feel stressed, not accomplished, and far from successful I define myself as a failure.

“I can never live up to my own standard.”

If I set my own standard of perfection, then I will never be ‘good enough’ and I will never be able to reach the heights of “happy”. If I set my own standard of perfection, then I will always remain a failure in my own eyes. I can never live up to my own standard. And that’s why it is so comforting to know that I don’t have to define myself according to my failures or successes- I am defined by God! He calls me His very own masterpiece.

Christian celebration band, Rend Collective, recently posted the following on social media: “…Maybe you’re wrestling with the phrase ‘good enough’- we all do sometimes. The thing is, we don’t claim our victories for ourselves and toss our failure into the arms of Jesus. He claims them all. He claims us entirely. Which means we’re no longer slaves to our failure or our successes. There’s no longer ‘good enough’, there’s just ‘His’.”

I absolutely love these words! We can never be ‘enough’ but, as Christians, we are His. This is the truth we must rest in.

You see, if I am completely honest with myself, I idolize perfection. Instead of relying on God, I struggle to be ‘good enough’. While God has already defined me as His precious child, I blindly scramble around, trying to control my own life and reach the heights of perfectionism. That said, time and time again, I only reach the depths of depression and stress.

I am missing out on living this life fully because instead of crying out to God and admitting ‘I can’t live this life without You!’ I am reaching inward and trying to satisfy my own self, hopelessly attempting to reach my standard of perfection… trying to prove myself perfect in the sight of those I know and love.

“To be like Christ doesn’t mean we have to be perfect.”

God calls us to be like Him. To be like Christ doesn’t mean we have to be perfect. Rather, we are trying to be like Him because we aren’t perfect and He is.

I don’t want people to see my ugly side. I don’t want them to see my struggle in a school subject, my struggles in life, attitude, etc. I want to appear perfect. I want to be perfect. But sometimes, we need to share our stories and ugliness. Remember, it was through Jesus’ scars that doubting Thomas believed.

Through our stories, struggles, and messiness, maybe-just maybe- we’ll bring encouragement and Light to others. Struggles- even the seemingly little ones (like math!)- are what make us human. Friends, family, and even those we don’t really know, crave transparency. They desire honesty. Just like you and I foolishly believe we’re the only ones who struggle, so do they. And sometimes, all it takes is admitting, “I am not perfect, but God is.” ”

“Sometimes, all it takes is admitting, ‘I am not perfect, but God is.’”

If we say that we have no sin, we deceive ourselves and the truth is not in us. If we confess our sins, He [God] is faithful and just to forgive us our sins, and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness. If we say that we have not sinned, we make Him a liar, and His word is not in us. 1 John 1: 8-10

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4 thoughts on “I’m Not Perfect, but My Savior Is

  1. I totally understand struggling with perfection. One year when I was in high school, I made the highest grades-out of the whole school! But it wasn’t enough…I always felt like I had to do more. That summer I went to awesome teen camp/training where I learned how to tell others about Jesus. But once again- I was the only first year camper to make honor roll by doing the advanced lessons and classes. Well, fast forward…last summer I went to the same teen camp/training and I really realized…I Don’t Have to Be perfect. Light Bulb moment! I started hanging out with friends that were relaxed and creative, and I found myself encouraging the other staff and campers a WHOLE lot more than I had in previous years. I actually turned several projects in a few days late -SHOCKER!
    I recently read “Graceful-letting go of your try hard life” by Emily Freeman, and I found out that there are a lot of Christian girls out there that struggle with perfection and (over) responsibility. We just have to remember that “My grace is sufficient for you, for my power is perfected in weakness” 2Cor.12:9. Keep Writing for Him!
    -Kadie http://www.realgirlservingarealgod.wordpress.com

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    1. It is so easy for me to say, “Grades don’t matter, you don’t have to be perfect”, but it’s not so easy to actually live it out, as you know. 🙂 I’ve kind of noticed that when I am so focused on trying to be ‘perfect’ it turns into a competition, me vs. everyone else, but there’s no competition and there’s no being better than anyone else. We need to help each other as Christ has asked us to. I know that if I could finally let go of my perfection obsession, I’d have so much less stress and worry, which we could all use a little less of. I’m definitely going to check out “Graceful” – it sounds like the perfect book for me to read, thanks for the recommendation! 🙂 How’s school going for you now? Would you say that you’ve become less of a perfectionist, or is it still an uphill battle? I’ll be praying for you!
      Thanks for the comment, Kadie! I look forward to reading your blog posts and hopefully we’ll get to connect with each other through our blogs! 🙂 🙂
      ♥♥♥ Laura

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      1. I’ve realized that the root of perfection is fear- fear of failing, fear of losing worth, fear of watching our dreams fade, fear of not being in control. As I give more and more of my fears over to Jesus, I realize that I don’t have time for perfection in my life. Life is amazing- who cares if I get straight A’s? So yes, grades don’t matter as much to me as they did before. I kinda like being the cluttered, creative, funny, relaxed type of person ( although my mom probably wishes that I would be more orderly in cleaning my room… 😉
        Just relax and let God!

        I’m Looking forward to some more of your posts!
        -Kadie

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      2. I really like that- “relax and let God”. That just might have to become my new life motto. 🙂

        Life IS beautiful and amazing. I constantly get caught up in things and completely forget to truly open my eyes to the world around me, not the world within me and directly outside of me. It is a constant, uphill battle for me, but with God all things are possible.

        And what you said about the root of perfection… That is so true…as I examine myself. I’m realizing it is true that I am afraid of failing, of not having as much worth without high marks. In reality, I have just as much worth in Him with or without such grades.

        Thanks for your encouraging words, Kadie. 🙂

        ♥♥♥ Laura

        P.S. I’m also looking forward to reading more of your posts 🙂 I noticed that you have a new one, so I’ll pop over to your blog to check it out. ♥

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